That’s what she did when she dated a guy her own age, but after two years of this, she had had enough. “I loved him and cared about him, but he was struggling like me.

“I always ended up paying for dinners and Christmas presents.” Of her new lifestyle, she says, “It’s not about using a guy for money, but about having that comfortable feeling. What she has to offer: “I am driven and passionate in all that I do, compassionate, balanced, fun and strive for all the best life has to offer.” GOLDIGGER?

“The litmus test is, if you didn’t have money, would your relationship still be the same?

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I love generosity — because I’m really generous.” LEFT: Lydiane Interdonato, 32. What she has to offer: “I’m educated and articulate. I’m attractive, and pretty well-rounded too.” GOLDIGGER? NO All of this is little consolation to guys frustrated with today’s money-centric dating culture.

So much so that Michael, a 33-year-old bicoastal bachelor in real estate acquisitions, who asked that his last name be withheld for privacy reasons, hired Spindel six months ago to the tune of $100K.

“Some people may call me a gold digger, but I call myself a goal digger — I’m goal-oriented, I have a really nice lifestyle, but I need a husband who can move me into the next tax bracket, together. “There are definitely some women who are clearly gold diggers — very focused on wanting to live a certain type of life that they don’t think they can accomplish on their own or don’t want to accomplish on their own — and finding these men is the answer,” says Manhattan-based relationship therapist Rachel Sussman.

“There are other women who do have careers and ambition, but they have that fantasy of dating someone who works on Wall Street or makes more money than they do, and [that this] will give them a more interesting life.

The guys who are OK with it understand it’s a transaction — it’s literal tit for tat.” Amanda Marie, a 21-year-old salon manager who lives in Staten Island, understands such transactions.

Since joining Seeking Arrangement, a dating Web site pairing hot young things with the sugar daddies who spoil them, two years ago, she traded in a cash-poor boyfriend who slaved away in retail for a string of monied men who take her out on the town — treating her to long dinners at Bobby Van’s in the Financial District and a monthly allowance of ,000.” says Justin Ross Lee, 31, a socialite who appeared as a potential suitor on Bravo’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker” last week.“If a guy can’t answer that, he’s written his own check.G., a 42-year-old Manhattan-based risk consultant for banks, had no idea he was being played.(He asked that only his initials be used for privacy reasons.) “She masked the ‘take men for what you can get’ mentality so well,” he recalls — at least at first.Since then, he’s been set up with five girls whom he says “you could take home to Mom.” He’s now in a “serious” relationship with one of them.